A conversation contains verbal and nonverbal expressions. So you should always be aware of both. Of course, you have heard it before, nonverbal expressions are more effective in the discussion but you should not neglect the words that come out of your mouth because once they are out, they never go back…
Do You Get Stuck In Conversations?
Sometimes we start a conversation and we feel that it is not going anywhere. You know why? because we try to hold to our opinion as it is the correct one, we stop listening to the person in front of us. I think that is wrong because the key to a good conversation is to listen and understand other’s points of view.
The problem when you hold to your idea or opinion as it is right 100%, you program your mind to stop listening to whatever they are saying, because you think in your mind “No way I am wrong, No way I will let this person convince me, I will be ashamed if I let my opinion down…”
And if the person in front of you holds to his “golden” opinion just like you, well, guess what? the conversation will never have an end. You will go on and on all day long without any result, you will lose your time and energy…
Why don’t we listen to others carefully and try to understand them? Everyone is unique, everyone has a different opinion, let’s resect it.
How to Lead a Better Conversation
So to lead a better conversation, a fruitful one, you should start changing yourself first. The next time you are having a hard time, at work with your colleague, at home with your spouse/husband or at a bar with a stranger, try to observe your attitude, your reactions, and your words…
Are you letting the situation gets over you? If so, control yourself, control your emotions and don’t forget to breathe. I believe any conversation can have a happy ending.
Be aware of your interlocutor’s reaction, facial expressions, and body language. Bear in mind that sometimes people might have a disconnection between their facial expressions and their thoughts.
One time I walked by a friend in the university and said hello, he replied with an unusual facial expression, later on, I asked him why, and he was surprised about it. Don’t judge too soon, better yet, don’t judge at all.
When you are open-minded and you listen well, things can’t go wrong. Sure sometimes you will have difficulties with some people who just don’t get it, but don’t worry, that is normal and reward yourself by saying “here is a challenge, I will accept it and take advantage of it in order to grow”.
Try to listen to others and enjoy it, speak when you only need to, ask smart and brilliant questions and don’t be afraid to say “can you please repeat that, I didn’t understand what you just said”, by the way, I do that every time I don’t understand.
How to End a Conflict in a Conversation
If you feel that the conversation is not going anywhere, unleash your creativity.
If you are at work and your interlocutor starts getting angry, maybe shouting at you, just stay calm and don’t let the situation gets you nervous.
When you are nervous, your mind cannot control neither your body language nor your verbal expressions. Instead, stay calm and try to calm your interlocutor as well. One way to do that is to give them credit on something right they said. You can tell them for exp. “I agree with you on this point but…”.
I hope this was helpful today.
Thank you for reading,
I truly wish you all the very best,